Most of us long to be more emotionally mature and better able to face life’s challenges with poise, confidence, kindness and good-natured intelligence. We want to be proper grown-ups.

With gentleness and insight, How Emotionally Mature Are You? helps us zero in on the key markers of psychological adulthood. It prompts us to look at how we respond to rejection, frustration, anxiety, ambiguity and hope by asking questions such as: How much do we like ourselves? Do we worry too much about the opinions of other people? What might be the best way to become a more interesting person?

This questionnaire considers childhood, the role of self-love and the perils of perfectionism, as well as the best ways to achieve self-belief and overcome impostor syndrome. In a series of accompanying essays, we are given material to reflect on and shown how to reach the emotional age we aspire to be.